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ok ok i know that i am in big trouble for not updating very often!!
i know you guys know how busy we have been. we moved to a new house (that i am absolutely IN LOVE with!) and of course with a toddler running around any extended period of time on the internet is out of the question unless its like nights like tonight where i am lucky enough to be able to stay up late while she sleeps hehe.

wow so someone posted to the attachment parenting group here on livejournal with a link to this website that her lactation consultant had given her. cosleepingsurvey.com. it is a survey for cosleeping families. so our voices can be heard!! if you look to the right and scroll down a big you will see shakti's blog posted as a link!!! i am so insanely flattered. i have no idea who is running that site but to have shaktis blog linked from a cosleeping website definitely makes me very happy!!

there are so many amazing and wonderful benefits to cosleeping and i am so thankful that i am able to share that with friends and family and help get the word out there.

i found this on the holistic pediatric association website and thought i would share while on the topic of cosleeping!!

"The Benefits of Co-Sleeping
(From the API News - Spring 2002. © 2002 Attachment Parenting International - www.attachmentparenting.org)
When it comes to research about co-sleeping, there's good news and there's bad news. The good news is that there is research to suggest that there are benefits to parents and infants who share a bed (or room) through the night. The bad news is that, beyond the research into the connection between co-sleeping and SIDS prevention, there's not much being done that inquires into its qualitative or long-term aspects. Until this type of research is done, we must continue to draw from the good work that is being done within the American culture, as well as from studies conducted in other cultures abroad.

What Research Shows
Benefits for infants
Co-sleeping promotes physiological regulation. The proximity of the parent may help the infant's immature nervous system learn to self-regulate during sleep (Farooqi, 1994; Mitchell, 1997; Mosko, 1996; Nelson, 1996; Skragg, 1996). It may also help prevent SIDS by preventing the infant from entering into sleep states that are too deep. In addition, the parents' own breathing may help the infant to "remember" to breathe (McKenna, 1990; Mosko, 1996; Richard, 1998).

Parents and infants sleep better. Because of the proximity of the mother, babies do not have to fully wake and cry to get a response. As a result, mothers can tend to the infant before either of them are fully awake (McKenna). As a result, mothers were more likely to have positive evaluations of their nighttime experiences (McKenna, 1994) because they tended to sleep better and wake less fully (McKenna & Mosko, 1997).

Babies get more caregiving. Co-sleeping increases breastfeeding (Clements, 1997; McKenna, 1994; Richard et al., 1996). Even the conservative American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) admits to the breastfeeding advantages of co-sleeping (Hauck, 1998). Mothers who co-sleep breastfeed an average of twice as long as non-co-sleeping mothers (McKenna). In addition to the benefits of breastfeeding, the act of sucking increases oxygen flow, which is beneficial for both growth and immune functions. Co-sleeping infants also get more attention and protective care. Mothers who co-sleep exhibited five times the number of "protective" behaviors (such as adjusting the infant's blanket, stroking or cuddling) as solitary-sleeping mothers (McKenna & Mosko, 1997). These mothers also showed an increased sensitivity to the presence of the baby in the bed (McKenna).

Long-term Benefits
Higher self-esteem. Boys who coslept with their parents between birth and five years of age had significantly higher self-esteem and experienced less guilt and anxiety. For women, co-sleeping during childhood was associated with less discomfort about physical contact and affection as adults (Lewis & Janda, 1988). Co-sleeping appears to promote confidence, self-esteem, and intimacy, possibly by reflecting an attitude of parental acceptance (Crawford, 1994).
More positive behavior.In a study of parents on military bases, co-sleeping children received higher evaluations from their teachers than did solitary sleeping children (Forbes et al., 1992). A recent study in England showed that among the children who "never" slept in their parents bed, there was a trend to be harder to control, less happy, exhibit a greater number of tantrums, and these children were actually more fearful than children who always slept in their parents' bed, all night (Heron, 1994).

Increased life satisfaction. A large, cross-cultural study conducted on five different ethnic groups in large U.S. cities found that, across all groups, co-sleepers exhibited a general feeling of satisfaction with life (Mosenkis, 1998).

What Parents Suspect
Co-sleeping promotes sensitivity. Many parents who co-sleep feel that they become more attuned to their baby and child. They feel that their sensitivity to the needs and patterns of their baby translate into daytime sensitivity as well.

It reduces bedtime struggles.

Parents of co-sleepers know that children who sleep in their parents'' room have no reason to be afraid of bedtime. As they grow older and move into their own rooms, they have positive, secure images of sleeptime. They have no reason to equate bedtime with being alone.

It fosters an environment of acceptance. Underlying the choice to co-sleep is a willingness to accept a child's need for the parent both day and night. A parent essentially communicates that while the child is small and needful, the parent will be there to help the child and address their needs. Co-sleeping parents tend to believe that this willingness to respond to the child's needs carries over into the daytime, and this powerfully contributes to the overall relationship with the child.

Co-sleeping is just as safe or safer than a crib. Existing studies do not prove that co-sleeping is inherently hazardous. The elements of the sleeping environment are what dictate the level of danger to the infant. When non-smoking parents who do not abuse alcohol or drugs sleep on a firm mattress devoid of fluffy bedding, co-sleeping is a safe environment. In addition, it is likely that there are many children whose lives have been saved by sleeping next to their parents. There is anecdotal evidence, for instance, of mothers who have noticed their child not breathing and were able to stimulate them to breathe.

Problems with Existing Sleep Research
Cultural bias
The research done thus far on co-sleeping has been, just like any other kind of research, deeply informed by the culture of the researchers and their subjects. Co-sleeping research conducted in the U.S. (where co-sleeping is widely regarded as odd, if not dangerous) is heavily influenced by the relatively high value Americans place on independence, technology, consumerism, and parents' needs for time and privacy. Work done in other cultures, on the other hand, is more likely to look at the benefits of co-sleeping and emphasize the needs of infants as integral to family andsocietal functioning.

Too focused on short-term, specific outcomes
Clinical research is not well-suited to measuring long-term, complex, or qualitative outcomes. The benefits of co-sleeping are, as many co-sleeping parents know from experience, not just short-term and certainly not easily quantified. Such potential benefits go beyond SIDS prevention, increased sleep for mother and baby, and increased breastfeeding in the first few months of life; for instance, they may include positive long-term effects on the parent-child relationship, children's self-esteem, and more. Part of what makes studying these long-term, qualitative benefits difficult is that their link to co-sleeping may be hard to separate from their link to other parenting practices common in co-sleeping families. Co-sleeping is simply one part of a complex ecology of parenting choices.

To truly study co-sleeping, researchers will need to begin asking different questions, such as what are the long-term outcomes for children who co-slept as children? Are parents who choose co-sleeping more likely to choose other parenting behaviors that also affect the outcomes being studied?

Common Co-Sleeping Myths
Children Can Suffocate
The recent Consumer Product Safety Commission (CPSC) finding that adult beds are inherently hazardous is both misleading and inaccurate. Parents should know that this recent campaign is sponsored and financed by the Juvenile Product Manufacturing Association (i.e. crib manufacturers), an organization that has everything to gain from parents choosing to buy cribs. Parents should also know that perhaps millions of parents sleep safely with their infants every year. A recent study persuasively documented that babies who sleep on their backs with a nonsmoking, non-drinking, parent who did not abuse drugs show no greater risk than solitary sleepers.

Dr. McKenna, professor of anthropology and director of the Mother-Infant Sleep Lab at Notre Dame, gives the following safety suggestions: "Infants should sleep on firm surfaces, clean surfaces, in the absence of smoke, under light (but comfortable) blanketing, and their heads should never be covered. The bed should not have any stuffed animals or pillows around the infant and never should an infant be placed to sleep on top of a pillow. Sheepskins or other fluffy material and especially beanbag mattresses should never be used. Water beds can be dangerous, too, and the mattresses should always tightly intersect the bedframe. Infants should never sleep on couches or sofas -- with or without adults -- where they can slip down (face first) into the crevice or get wedged against the back of a couch."

If they sleep in your bed, they'll never leave.
This has never been studied or documented, and anecdotal evidence from co-sleeping parents does not bear this out. Many co-sleeping parents report that their children become willing to leave, with little or no persuasion, on their own around age two or three, as they mature physically, emotionally and cognitively. These families also report that there are many ways to help children find their own sleeping space.

Co-sleeping families tend not to see things in terms of habits that need to be broken, but as patterns that can be established, but that continually evolve and change. For co-sleeping families, laying the foundation for security and closeness takes precedence over early independence."

Shakti is doing wonderful! i can't believe how big she is getting. she will be 17 months old here in a couple days. it just blows me away how smart she is. she repets everything, follows commands, she is learning her shapes, animals, sounds, music...wowowow the learning in our house never stops and it shows!! she is quite the little artist too haha. we have been letting her color with crayons and wow she absolutely LOVES it.
and of course music, we can't forget music hehe ;p

at our new house we have a big gorgeous yard that we share with our dear friend Melissa and her son Toshiro. the kids have sooo much fun in the yard! shakti stands at the front door and says "outside! outside!!" haha its so cute.

things with aaron and i are both going well. aaron is working hard and doing very well at his job. he seems very happy and comfortable there. i am still working with Family Connections. my hospital visits have been going really well. i am so thankful for this opportunity. it really means the world to me to get to work with new families during such a special time.

shakti gets up and down the stairs at the new house really well. she has recently started sliding down backwards on her belly. it is the most hilarious thing EVER. i laugh so hard every time. she can get down those stairs much faster than i can that way! haha. its a total riot. i will have to make sure to get that on video and post it because its just toooo much! haha.

ok i must get some sleep, its late!!
i love you guys and im sorry that the updates have been so far and few between. i will try to do a better job at keeping you guys updated on miss shakti <3